It is easy to make your relationships more complicated and difficult than they need to be. Here are 12 simple truths about relationships to help you keep them healthy and on track.

• All successful relationships require some work. Relationships exist and thrive when the parties involved take the risk of sharing themselves with another.
• Most of the time you get what you put into a relationship. If you want love, give love. If you'd like to feel understood, try being more understanding. It's a simple practice that works.
• You shouldn't have to fight for a place in someone else’s life. Never force someone to make time and space in their life for you. If they know your worth, they will create it for you.
• There is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some people will test you, some will use you, and some will teach you, but most importantly, some will bring out the best in you. Learn to accept the differences between these people.
• We all change, and that’s okay. Healthy relationships always move in the direction of growth—for the relationship as a whole and for everyone in it. When you connect with a true friend, this person helps you find the best in yourself.
• You are in control of your own happiness. Nobody else can make you happy—it's something only you can do. You must create your own happiness first before you can share it with someone else.
• Forgiving others helps you. Forgive others, not because they deserve it, but because you deserve peace.
• You cannot change people—they can only change themselves. Instead of trying to change others, give them your support and lead by example.
• Arguements are a waste of time. The less time you spend arguing with the people who hurt you, the more time you'll have to love the people who love you.
• You are better off without some people in your life. If someone continuously mistreats you, have enough respect for yourself to walk away. You'll be okay, and far better off in the long run.
• Small gestures of kindness go a long way. Honor your important relationships in some way every chance you get. Every day you can make small gestures to show your appreciation for others.
• Even the best relationships don’t last forever. Nothing lasts forever. Look around and be thankful for your family and friends that allows you to share new life experiences.

Activity: Define relationships in your life

Referring to the “truths” listed above, create a clear statement on how relationships will exist in your life going forward. Acknowledge any changes you want to make so you can have better relationships.

If you would like more information about how therapy could help you define relationships in your life, do not hesitate to contact me to learn more. 

Source: Adapted from the book 1000+ Little Things Happy Successful People Do Differently